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Survivor’s Guilt

What is survivors guilt? I mean I definitely did not think I had this, how could I? I was doing what I loved and so I did not think I had it. Survivors guilt is feelings of guilt for having survived a catastrophe in which others died or did not come out of their injury as well as I did. I think the true definition is more that you survived what others haven’t, but I know people who survived and definitely did not have the outcome I did, so I think I definitely have guilt from that, although it may be deep down and I might not recognize that.

A painting my friend painted for me💚

But Elyse Snipes, a therapist who has The Trailercast podcast I was on helped me understand why I was doing some of the things I was doing like totally overdoing life with a brain Injury, my no excuses attitude and how I was doing it all because of the fact that I can, which is true but she helped me see how it all can also be survivors guilt and I didn’t even recognize it. She helped me reframe a lot and realize it’s ok to take a break, to slow down because I deserve that, my family deserves that and they along with me deserve the best Jessy possible which is a well rested one for sure.

So I definitely think I have survivors guilt. I for now on will be more aware of that, allow myself time to rest and be the best I can be for myself, my husband, my son and friends and family. I will educate myself more on survivors guilt, talk to my psychiatrist about it as well and be aware and understand it’s ok that I survived this and am doing as good as I am and that wasn’t a choice, but it happened and I can be grateful for it and give back to others who suffer a TBI and help others.

Early on in my journey, June 2018 in inpatient rehab.

By jessymunch826

I am a TBI Survivor and woman who has been through a lot of good and bad. My goal by this blog is to share what I have learned and how life has happened for me and not to me. I have found purpose in it all and am here to share it. I am also sober and quitting drinking was the best choice for me. I will post about TBI, Brain Injury, life, travel, lessons learned and more. I am not a doctor or a nurse, I am a traumatic brain injury survivor who has lived 40 years of life and have an amazing mindset from it all. None of this is medical advice, that is what your doctor is for or 911 if you are having an true emergency and need help right away. I am here for community and to share all I have learned, you never know who it will help. Click on the white title of the blog post to read, just saying in case you might be confused like I am with all this 🤣

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