I’m thankful everyday but today I am SO thankful.
4 years. Happy 4 years Chris, I cannot explain how happy and proud of him I am. While the journey has not been easy, it’s been worth it. I’m so thankful I got my DUI 3 months after he got sober which led to my sobriety too. I can honestly say that we would of not have gotten married or that our marriage would not have lasted if I didn’t get sober too. Life has been amazing since sobriety. Truly. I can’t think of anything bad that has come from removing alcohol from our lives.
I am so glad to see the man I love made the choice to better himself which included becoming sober. 8 years we have been together, half of that has been completely sober, the other half was a bit of a shit show. But something about him, something was there for us to be here today. He’s my person. We manage life together sober, he managed my horrible accident and all while sober. We have truly seen who is meant to be in our life and who isn’t since getting sober, it’s amazing how you really find that out when you remove a legal substance from your life.
It baffles me that now that my husband is truly better, a better person and a more reliable person that friends have left but it’s life and honestly he doesn’t drink for himself and I’m proud of him for that. If people can’t see what a better person he is since getting sober, than so be it. People that don’t know my sober husband, don’t know my husband or me now as two people not wrecked by a legal substance aka alcohol, than they don’t know us. It was the best decision ever for us and I’m so proud of you Chris. Thanks for making the best decision of your life 4 years ago so you could be the best person you can be. I loved you as a drinker, but I really love you now and love the man who does not need a drink to cope with life or “have fun”.
4 years of amazing work. 4 years of being the best you. 4 years of working so hard on yourself and life. 4 years that I hope you are SO freaking proud of, I know I am so proud of you and your hard work. I am so proud of how you handled my TBI, not knowing if your wife of 10 months would ever wake up, and then not knowing how I would be if I did wake up, not knowing the challenges we face daily. You stayed away from alcohol through one of the hardest times of your life. You did not choose to drink even though you are broken and I couldn’t be more proud of you. It really shows me what I mean to you but also what you mean to yourself.
Sobriety is definitely a journey not a destination and each person’s sobriety journey looks different and you cannot compare one persons journey to another’s. In four years my husband drank one time, the clock didn’t start over. He screwed up, owned it and moved on from that. It was a huge realization for him and for us that sometimes people who are close to you, will be ok with encouraging you to do something horrible like drink even though doing so makes you at your worst. It is super disappointing, but it happened and happens so often to other people. We live in a culture where drinking is plastered everywhere as being so great. Most people do not understand when you quit. What I have noticed is that the people who don’t take your sobriety serious and encourage you to drink despite all your hard work, rehab and poor mental health due to drinking are probably people who can’t see alcohol as a problem in their own world, people who totally don’t understand the disease of alcoholism or who can’t understand why someone would choose to remove something from their life that has definitely tried to ruin their life. I have found in my own journey that people who truly care about you and your well being will be 100% supportive of your choice not to drink and it won’t be an issue at all. If someone doesn’t have an issue with alcohol in their own life, they really won’t have an issue with you removing it from your life. They won’t stop calling, they won’t stop hanging out and they definitely won’t encourage you too drink or be ok with you drinking if you decided to do so. Of course no matter what it is your choice if you choose to drink. It’s your responsibility.
Happy 4 years of choosing you. Choosing our family. Choosing the best life possible. I’m so thankful you chose you and being your best self.