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What 2020 Taught Me

I had so many plans for 2020 that just did not happen. It’s the last day of 2020 and I could not be happier. But what did I get out of this pandemic? How did it happen for me, what did I learn from one hell of an unexpected year? I have learned to really learn through things in life. The good and the bad and to find what it’s teaching me.

Covid taught me how to pace

2020 was not the year I had planned, imagined or hoped for. 2020 wasn’t for anyone.

But I can reflect on all I learned this year, what 2020 and living through a pandemic taught me.

It taught me to slow the eff down!

It taught me that I fail at pacing myself. This is huge in living with a brain injury.

It taught me to be content and happy with life as is right now, in the present moment. I love to travel and am so lucky to do so. I could not travel. I also could not work or volunteer so I had to find other things to keep me grounded, satisfied and happy.

I already understood how lucky I am to have my life and how fast your life can change, this was just another reminder in case I forgot.

I learned that although I have a brain injury and they say you change after you have one, and although I forgot a lot of my education and background in Public Health, I’m still very keen to it and know where to find credible information and still know right from wrong.

My husband and I have definitely gotten closer, we have each other and that’s it. We also are still learning where we fit into this life and how still even after my accident when people walked away, people still are. I mean yes there is Covid, but it doesn’t mean you can’t call or text people or FaceTime.

I have found community in places I did not have before. This has helped keep me sane.

I have reminded myself constantly that this is hard. Life is hard. Everyone reacts differently to what’s happening and I have learned just to leave it be, not be offended and not expect much.

I’m here, I’m healthy, I’m happy and I know I’m a good person and friend, I also know I’m not part of the problem and can sleep just fine at night.

I’m trying to not be judgemental, just give space and hope those I value come back eventually when life is back to normal. This has been a hard year and I am not sure it’s getting easier anytime soon.

I will do me and worry about me and my family, I will be here when others are ready. I get that it’s hard and it’s throwing everyone for a loop!

Most importantly I learned that I am beyond resilient. That all of the hard things I have gone through in my life have really prepared me for anything, this pandemic being one of those things. I’m grateful for that.

I also acknowledge that I am doing well with this isolation and Covid life because of my brain injury, who knows how I would be if I didn’t have my brain Injury. But I would like to think I would be somewhat the same since I do come from a public health background. But the brain injury definitely led me to working out at home since I don’t drive, and my Peloton has been a saving grace.

By jessymunch826

I am a TBI Survivor and woman who has been through a lot of good and bad. My goal by this blog is to share what I have learned and how life has happened for me and not to me. I have found purpose in it all and am here to share it. I am also sober and quitting drinking was the best choice for me. I will post about TBI, Brain Injury, life, travel, lessons learned and more. I am not a doctor or a nurse, I am a traumatic brain injury survivor who has lived 40 years of life and have an amazing mindset from it all. None of this is medical advice, that is what your doctor is for or 911 if you are having an true emergency and need help right away. I am here for community and to share all I have learned, you never know who it will help. Click on the white title of the blog post to read, just saying in case you might be confused like I am with all this 🤣

17 replies on “What 2020 Taught Me”

Only a few minutes in to your podcast and I can relate SO much! Doctors told my husband my health and fitness plus sobriety and mindset was a huge factor in how I came out of my TBI when I had a 10% chance of ever waking up and then it was likely to be a vegetative state. Speech is my hardest, I can write good though, can’t do numbers and speech is a struggle. Mostly cognitive defects.

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Thank you for listening to the beginning of the podcast. And for reflecting on how your own life experiences with TBI related to my sister Noelle’s story. I will share your comment with her. I know it will help her tremendously, knowing she is not alone. 🌍💞

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And Noell is never alone. There is a huge brain injury community on IG, Tawnie the mermaid, Maddies Stroke of Luck and Joe Borges and the Neuro Nerds podcast he does are all amazing friends I have met virtually and after Covid will in real life. My carotid was torn too and I had stroke like symptoms and an anoxic brain injury and definitely can relate to stroke survivors too.

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Thank you for watching! Everything I write and create on YouTube is with my psychology students in mind.

And to answer your question about books, I have written psychology textbooks: and articles for magazines.

The link ^ to the books includes a sample chapter on psychology and the brain.

My intention is to publish my thriving under pressure blog as a book in 2025.

275 posts / 500 pages written so far.

Your blog would make a great book one day too Jessy!

#northstar #visionboard 📖 ✨

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Thanks jessy.

I can relate to you on soooo many levels. You have no idea. I really like reading your posts.

You are very strong 💪 and I respect the heck outta ya. You are in my life and entered it in the hurricane of a chapter that is 2020.

Maybe we’ll meet in person someday and maybe not. Whatever happens in this world, happens for a reason (just like our TBIs and DAIs)

I’m the one “steering” but I’m not the one “driving” in the journey that is My Life.
And that may only make sense to me.

Have a safe New Year 👊💚👊


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I can so relate to that! I’m definitely not driving but definitely steering. Glad we can connect on here and after Covid you never know, we live to travel and your near some places we need to go!


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