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Toxic Positivity, Supporting Friends Through Hard Times

I was listening to Elyse Snipes podcast today of a mom Rachel from New Zealand who is going through a Leukemia Diagnosis with her 5 year old son and through Covid. It’s a great episode and I highly recommend it. I need to listen again and be ready to take notes but a couple things I jotted down quickly.

I loved how she could find the food from Covid in conjunction with an awful diagnosis. I have found the same with my TBI and Covid and loved hearing someone else who can find the positives from such negatives.

You can see things positively without it being toxic positivity. I loved this as I feel this is huge I’m how my mindset is and how I live. Shit is not all sunshine and fucking rainbows, life is hard but it’s ok to find the positive in things and it’s also ok to be pissed off, sad and have your feelings and not be all positive and happy. We are human. Toxic positivity is not human and does not help anyone.

Rachel in her Trailercast convo made a good point about how people have left their life since their sons diagnosis and how sometimes people also don’t call or text because they don’t know what to say, so they never do because they made the choice to stop due to being uncomfortable. Uncomfortable because it could be a realization it could be them going through it, or they just don’t know what to say so they say nothing.

I have definitely felt this myself and I’m here to say it’s never too late. I get it that whatever I went through can be uncomfortable for others, but it does not have to be and I’m still here and I am not my TBI. I’m just Jessy. I’m still me just a little more tired and slower. I’m not a sad reminder of what can happen from doing something you love like motocross. I am a great reminder of how my being aware and having the proper gear saved my life.

And I love this quote in Jen Sincero book, Badass Habits:

By jessymunch826

I am a TBI Survivor and woman who has been through a lot of good and bad. My goal by this blog is to share what I have learned and how life has happened for me and not to me. I have found purpose in it all and am here to share it. I am also sober and quitting drinking was the best choice for me. I will post about TBI, Brain Injury, life, travel, lessons learned and more. I am not a doctor or a nurse, I am a traumatic brain injury survivor who has lived 40 years of life and have an amazing mindset from it all. None of this is medical advice, that is what your doctor is for or 911 if you are having an true emergency and need help right away. I am here for community and to share all I have learned, you never know who it will help. Click on the white title of the blog post to read, just saying in case you might be confused like I am with all this 🤣

5 replies on “Toxic Positivity, Supporting Friends Through Hard Times”

I have listened to Elyse too. I haven’t heard that one so I should check it out (if I remember to🤣)

I hope you’re having a Splendid Saturday and that you will have a Super (Bowl) Sunday Jessy!
I totally 💯 forgot that tomorrow is the super bowl 😂

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