July 25th, 2003 I was married in Negril Jamaica. It would have been my 18th wedding anniversary. That’s so insane to me.
I was married a month before I turned 23. My husband was great, it was everything I ever wanted. But I was so young and life changed so much over the years that we divorced in 2012.
He is the father of my son. He’s close to my parents. Him and my current husband get along great. We all have one goal and that is what’s best for Jaxson.
We were together for 5 years before we got married, I was 17 when I met him. So 23 years together and married for 18 would have been today.
I have now been with my current husband almost 9 years and married 4 in August. It’s insane to me how time flies. It’s also amazing how much I have learned from these two men and about myself through both of these relationships. Bottom line is they take work, marriage is hard and no matter how great or “perfect” a marriage seems, you can never make assumptions. Divorce is hard, doing that to your family is even harder but really for me it was the best choice I could have made. I am just not who I was when I met Jeremy my ex and I grew and learned so much and sadly it made me grow apart from my first husband.
But that’s ok. We are both happy and in great relationships now and have a great coparenting relationship. We have had the same schedule with our son since our split, we recently had our first parenting disagreement and fight and like my dad told me, first one in almost 10 years isn’t so bad.
Our divorce is exactly how it should have been. He got what he deserved and worked hard for, we put our son first and we made it work. Yes it was awful and hard of course but in the forefront was putting our son first and not doing things out of anger and spite.
The point of this post is that divorce is hard. Marriage is hard. You have to do what’s best for you and your family, sometimes a marriage changes and people change and that’s ok. I am nothing like I was at 23 and have gone through some big life events that changed my way and focus in life and that’s ok. I just know that my ex husband is great and so is my current husband. One just was not great for me in a relationship.
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