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7/25/2003 18 years!

July 25th, 2003 I was married in Negril Jamaica. It would have been my 18th wedding anniversary. That’s so insane to me.

I was married a month before I turned 23. My husband was great, it was everything I ever wanted. But I was so young and life changed so much over the years that we divorced in 2012.

He is the father of my son. He’s close to my parents. Him and my current husband get along great. We all have one goal and that is what’s best for Jaxson.

We were together for 5 years before we got married, I was 17 when I met him. So 23 years together and married for 18 would have been today.

I have now been with my current husband almost 9 years and married 4 in August. It’s insane to me how time flies. It’s also amazing how much I have learned from these two men and about myself through both of these relationships. Bottom line is they take work, marriage is hard and no matter how great or “perfect” a marriage seems, you can never make assumptions. Divorce is hard, doing that to your family is even harder but really for me it was the best choice I could have made. I am just not who I was when I met Jeremy my ex and I grew and learned so much and sadly it made me grow apart from my first husband.

But that’s ok. We are both happy and in great relationships now and have a great coparenting relationship. We have had the same schedule with our son since our split, we recently had our first parenting disagreement and fight and like my dad told me, first one in almost 10 years isn’t so bad.

Our divorce is exactly how it should have been. He got what he deserved and worked hard for, we put our son first and we made it work. Yes it was awful and hard of course but in the forefront was putting our son first and not doing things out of anger and spite.

The point of this post is that divorce is hard. Marriage is hard. You have to do what’s best for you and your family, sometimes a marriage changes and people change and that’s ok. I am nothing like I was at 23 and have gone through some big life events that changed my way and focus in life and that’s ok. I just know that my ex husband is great and so is my current husband. One just was not great for me in a relationship.

Jaxson and his Dad 💚

By jessymunch826

I am a TBI Survivor and woman who has been through a lot of good and bad. My goal by this blog is to share what I have learned and how life has happened for me and not to me. I have found purpose in it all and am here to share it. I am also sober and quitting drinking was the best choice for me. I will post about TBI, Brain Injury, life, travel, lessons learned and more. I am not a doctor or a nurse, I am a traumatic brain injury survivor who has lived 40 years of life and have an amazing mindset from it all. None of this is medical advice, that is what your doctor is for or 911 if you are having an true emergency and need help right away. I am here for community and to share all I have learned, you never know who it will help. Click on the white title of the blog post to read, just saying in case you might be confused like I am with all this 🤣

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